Breastfeeding in public – baby comes first

One of my Mommy friends sent me a link to this article on AOL News: Many Outraged by Breast-Feeding Magazine Cover.

Oh please. Outrage at seeing part of a woman’s breast while she’s feeding her child? One woman was worried that her 13-year-old son would see it, so she shredded it. Like he’s never seen a boobie before. Some women don’t like breastfeeding woman in public because their husbands might “accidentally” see a breast when they didn’t want to.

One of the most-asked questions I get lately is, “So are you still nursing Duncan?” It used to bother me as I always wondered what kind of answer the person wants to hear. “Oh no, of course, not, he’s too old for that. He’s on whole milk now.” Or, “Yes, I plan to continue until he’s 13.” Oh wait, that’s what I usually say. 😉 No one wants to hear that.

The serious answer is, yes, we’re still nursing. And right now I have no plans to stop. It’s working well for us. It gives him good nutrition and a certain comfort he can’t get in any other way. I’ve read books about weaning – about how to do it, why and when. And I realized we’re not ready to go to that place just yet. Maybe in a month, 6 months, a year. We’ll find out when we get there.
What I find interesting is that now that I’ve decided for myself what I’m OK with, I don’t care about other people’s opinions on the matter. That translates to breast feeding in public.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve always done it. If we’ve been out and Duncan’s been hungry — especially when he was exclusively breastfed — we’ve found a spot and done our thing. Rarely has that been with streams of people filing by – although Marketplace Mall left me no choice as they don’t have a nursing room or anything remotely quiet other than a stinking bathroom. And I don’t eat my meals in the bathroom, why should a baby?

I didn’t like it, though. I felt uncomfortable. I felt other people being uncomfortable.

Now (and now that Duncan rarely needs to nurse when we’re in a public place unless he’s somehow been napping while we’re out), now I don’t care if it makes anyone uncomfortable. Odd how it’s changed. But maybe I’m just more comfortable myself being a Mummy.

2 thoughts on “Breastfeeding in public – baby comes first

  1. I read the article. What’s wrong with those people?
    And it’s OK for young women to be out in the street (or even at work in some places) with a bare middrif and showing their thong underwear, or wearing a lingerie top showing half their boobs. Weird ….

  2. Thanks for this, Silandara – I linked to it on my blog. This was very much my experience with Hamlet, even with discreet nursing, but I kept at it. Too important not to, IMO. (Besides, he refused bottles.) No one ever said anything, perhaps because they could tell by the look on my face that I would’ve said something back? 😉 Brava to you!

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