I don’t know the answer to my question.
At one point I would have said about every hour. That’s how long it’s safe to go without a diaper in between trips to the potty.
Yes, we’re taking trips to the potty.
Then I would have said 15 minutes after he last peed in the potty. Because that’s how long he went diaper-free before peeing all over my new shoes.
Today, I’d say it’s right after we put the pull-up diaper back on after sitting on the potty. Because he won’t pee in the potty anymore. He says it’s hot. We don’t know what that means. Does it mean it hurts? That his pee is too warm and it freaks him out? Perhaps he has no idea what the word “hot” actually means. Does he have a UTI? Was I really supposed to be doing something special with his little intact penis that I haven’t been (even though the books say not to)?
What I do know is that he has amazing bladder control. The boy can sit on that potty for ages without peeing, start to pee and immediately stop himself and jump up declaring, “All done pee-pee!” And then, if you don’t put a diaper on, he still doesn’t pee. Even after ANOTHER trip to the potty. It’s only when the diaper goes back on that he unleashes.
He always was a bit unfathomable.
So that’s what’s going on in our lives at the moment. We’re taking a bit of a potty break (one that doesn’t involve sitting on the potty), trying to figure out if there’s something physically wrong with him that’s hurting when he does pee (he also grabs at his diaper when peeing), reassessing and trying not to appear frustrated.
I did ask him at bathtime last night if his pee-pee hurts. He said yes. So maybe it does. But then, as I was putting him to bed, he informed me that I have ants in my nose and bees in my ears… so you never can quite trust what the toddler says.